Saturday, April 23, 2011

Back on track

My co-author and I have been slacking a lot on writing. We've been letting the stresses of things far less important than lifelong dreams get us down and the novel had been put on a temporary hold. Luckily, tonight, we were able to start over with overwhelming motivation, leaving us more excited than ever to complete the books and, ultimately, the series.

We took a couple steps to restore motivation:

1. We didn't work in either of our homes (where distractions live). We headed to a Starbucks, where there were no dogs to care for, dishes to worry about or noisy televisions.

2. We free wrote. We stopped thinking so much about the plot and where things fit in. In fact, tonight, we wrote the ending. We have a very long way to go before we actually NEED an ending but that was exactly what we needed to feel rejuvenated.

When the two of us first started writing together, we were often afraid to offer suggestions, write over what the other had written, etc. Now, we're seeing that as a strength. Sometimes we disagree (kindly) but, of course, the readers are the ultimate audience and if the first reader (the co-author) isn't getting it, it needs to be reworked. Oftentimes, it turns out better with a little bit of both of our writing styles mixed in.

I'm so excited to see where this project goes. I have a lot of faith in it and, once again, am ready to work hard to make it all that it needs to be. I'm glad we've gotten back on track because how soon not now becomes never.

Thursday, April 7, 2011

quitting can be a beginning

“A dead end street is a good place to turn around”

Recently, I quit my job after just a year and accepted a new position. It took a lot of soul searching to take that step. I kept telling myself, "I'm not a quitter." I kept trying to make myself believe that where I was was where I wanted to be. It wasn't. After discussing my options with those who love me and being presented with an amazing opportunity, I had to go. After being at my new job, it's dawned on me: I didn't quit something; I started something.

Sometimes rushing at full speed down a dead end road is not being devoted; it's being scared. Life is about taking risks and getting out of situations that you know will get you nowhere. I woke up every day unhappy and unfulfilled. That isn't what I had in mind for my life & career, so I simply couldn't continue. What's worse is that I was in a job that others might need or want when I had other options.

So, I chose something else. It's going to be challenging, but I feel accomplished each and every day. When I wake up in the morning, I feel like I have a clear purpose. And, I get to use the skills that I feel have gone overlooked because of the position I chose.

The road leading nowhere isn't always a job. It can be a relationship, an investment, or simply a hobby. It's not the end of the world to say, "This isn't for me. I have to go." People will probably be mad. You might even have someone tell you that what you're doing is wrong, but I've found that the people who truly care about you recognize when you're making the choice that's right for you. That support is enough. It's not the end and you're not a quitter. It's a new beginning, and you'll feel braver than you've ever felt before.